GenderLife Forum: The Information Exchange

I spoke with my psychologist last week, and she told me that the best way to come out to her was a little at a time. Do any of you girls have any suggestions of how to start?
She is aware of the crossdressing, and knows that I've done it since early childhood. I have recently moved out of our home, to allow myself to live full time, at home at least, as a woman. I have been on spiro for one month, and will begin estrogen at the end of August.She believes that I left her for another woman! It's been a long time since there was marital bliss, but I really do love her, and I know that she loves me. I am desperately hopeful that she will allow me to stay close to our family, but so much hinges on the delivery. Any thoughts would be welcome.

Perhaps ask the psychologist if she could write you a letter to give to your wife, explaining the situation; or perhaps she could give your wife a phone call, outlining what is going on?
Your wife might find it all more acceptable from an 'official' source.

Disclaimer
This is based on my personal experience only.

I told my spouse I was TS 9 years ago. She is a licensed mental health counselor. It took 8 years before she could begin to understand the full implications of what it meant.

I told my mother about 5 years ago. It wasn't until very recently that she began to understand the implications of what it meant.

Granted, I had been fighting this with all my strength and miserable until having an epiphany last year, but just because you tell them, and they seem to understand, doesn't mean it has registered emotionally at all.

My advice would be to write a letter and allow her to read it in your presence. Ask her to finish the letter before asking questions, and then prepare to be supportive.

I've heard horror stories where women were asked to leave immediately and never return upon disclosing, and I've heard of spouses taking it in stride. I believe the former outnumber the latter considerably, and most cases fall somewhere in between.

If you'd like to see a copy of the letter I wrote, pm me and I'd be willing to share.

Well, I've still never understood how one could have GID, then get married and then have children..but good luck.

I've never understood why people like McDonald's, so I guess we're even.

Aw it is quite easy darling, I did it twice

Oh yes btw...I have a decent letter that I composed before transtioning that I will be happy to send you if you'd like.
Just pm me.

jenny, your mailbox is full
K

by the way, having been born in a male body, I did also stand up to pee for many years.

Me neither