GenderLife Forum: The Information Exchange

That's why she quoted me - Ohhhh *nods*

Ya'll have a lovely [time of day].

{Secret squirrel mission}

So it was an insult to everyone?

Vex it's an American expression and was meant as a joke.

It's an international expression and it wasn't funny.

I believe is comes from the old world expression "Pull your thumb outta yer arse"

Which translates in kiwi to "stop being such an uptight wanker"

You can be offended when none was intended if you want to. I think this is a matter of cultural misunderstanding. Rachel could have been more explicit and stated it was meant as a "generic you" but that is water under the dam. It's your choice to take it personally when it was not intended as such.

If it wasn't directed at Emma, then the comment makes no sense in the context of the conversation - be it joke, culturalism or whatever.

It was an extremely deliberate attack on me specifically in response to my comment that if you hold a bottle by the neck you can put your thumb over the mouth to avoid having a rapist slip drugs into your drink. If you think anything else, well, I hope that bridge was cheap.

Our government funds campaigns to teach young women how to look after themselves whilst out having a good time - it's a pity that your 'culture' thinks that this education is unacceptable.

There is more difference between cultures within your country by the way than between yours and mine - Your (personal 'your') culture is probably completely incoherent to many of your country persons.

TWIMC: It was not my intention to offend anybody; I meant my comment "generally", not specifically. And it wasn't even implied in a mean way. Why else would I type a Happy Face after it?

My exwife used to call a friend of ours up, and the way she always started every phone conversation, no matter who she was talking to, was by saying, "What are you doing?", and this particular guy would always say, "Sitting here with my thumb up my ass (meaning, 'I'm doing nothing'), what are you doing?"

That phrase was the first thing that came to mind when I saw someone write about sticking their thumb in their beer.

I apologize if I've offended anyone, but with the attitude that has been directed towards me in the past few days by the other party involved, I really don't care WHAT she thinks, anymore.~ Rachel

If I could hijack this thread's version of the ongoing cat fight for a moment...

I do try to "pass". Unlike many of you I'm still "part time". My therapist told me some time ago that emotionally and developmentally I am a 13 yr old girl and that is true in a lot of ways. Due to my stunted development I consider myself to be a girl who is trying to learn how to be a woman. Just like all girls this involves watching women and adopting their behavior as it fits my personality. It also means learning the things about how to dress and behave that my mother was unfortunately negligent in teaching me. Am I deceiving anyone? Well, yes. Just like the thirteen year old who tries to look like she's 25. I'm trying to learn how to "grow up". Socialization tips are important to me. I am still not completely comfortable in public and anything that I can learn to draw less attention to myself while I'm in public makes my transition easier (by the way Vex, our conversation that night last fall really did help reduce my stress and you were right, I did do ok. Thanks again).


We now return you to our, unfortunately, regularly scheduled flame wars...