Breena I firmly believe our life experiences both good and bad help make us who we are.
I try hard to take what has happened in my life as tools to help me deal with the next chapter of my life. An example is a few months ago I went a little sic' on my ex's arse and got myself arrested .... my attitude was the whole episode was not the worst thing to happen to me, life goes on.
I guess what I am trying to say is don't be a Victim for anyone! I know it is easy for me to say because I have that personality where I take responsibility for all things in my life. Sure circumstances happen but ultimately I have a choice and I choose what I do and don't do, or how I respond or don't respond. I responded to my ex, I went too far .... so I got arrested. It takes time to develop a resilience to the shit life can throw at us, but you gotta try and keep trying and eventually you will be self reliant and stronger than you ever imagined.
I don't know if you're prepared to take that advice, if not be calm and move forward.
xoxo
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"Don't ya think that I don't know
what they say and what they think,
but I don't care"
(Down The Road!
Bee Gees
1974 Mr Natural)