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#93556 - 12/16/04 07:43 PM First time out
Cecelia Offline
Pooh-Bah

Registered: 06/06/04
Loc: California, USA
I finally decided that I'd like to share my experience of the first time I went out. This was on my trip to Florida. (I'm sorry. I really should have tried to hook up with some of you in the area, but I was planning on spending all my time with the friend I was visiting.)

Anyway, I get there, we meet for a couple of hours. She has to go home, and I stay at the hotel. What happened next really took the fun out of it. We both got sick. She, really bad. I just felt kinda icky, and didn't feel like eating.

Anyway, (Yeah, another "anyway." I like starting sentences with that word.) we were both out of action for a few days. I needed to get some decent cereal for breakfast. I thought I'd try for the nearest supermarket (I can't remember which one it was) but ran into a toll road (Ha! I have another story to tell you about toll roads. Unlike here in California with the toll on bridges, there were tolls on major roads. I went through 2 toll booths on the same road. I got lost, by the way. I asked a toll person how to find the street my hotel was on. He told me to turn around, pay toll on the way back, and then the directions. I was livid! I had been afraid I'd spend all my money trying to find my way with all these toll roads. Well, that's that.). I didn't want to do that, so I turned back. I stopped at a local library first. I'd seen the sign on the way. Since I work in the library, I thought I'd check out an Orlandoan library. It was slightly different, and yet the same. I kept a big jacket on, so this doesn't really count.

My next stop was Walgreens. I figured they might have some decent food stuffs. This time, no jacket. I got what I needed, even asked a worker how to find something. Then I checked out. Nobody said anything. I didn't notice any strange looks. (Okay, I must admit that I did step out, slightly made up, but not quite right in the chest back at the hotel the day I met my friend, and I did notice a strange look—my friend had made me walk her to her car without my jacket.)

So, anyway (okay, now it's the second word of the sentence), that's my first time out. My trans electrologist really got on my case about the whole deal (the trip, the outing, the dangers), but I thought everything went well, aside from the obvious downer.

Any questions?
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#93557 - 12/16/04 09:43 PM Re: First time out
Marcella Offline
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Registered: 03/31/03
Loc: Pasture
You're looking great CeCe!

Well, I'm happy it went nicely for you. Too bad about the bug.
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#93558 - 12/16/04 10:17 PM Re: First time out
CalperniaAddams Offline
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Registered: 11/22/02
Loc: Los Angeles, CA
* Congrats, Cecilia. Those first times out will blend into the next, and the next, and one day you'll be shopping or going to an appointment or meeting a friend and realize, "Wow, I've been going out as myself for weeks now!" Those merge into months, years and eventually a lifetime of living the way you need to live.
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#93559 - 12/16/04 10:48 PM Re: First time out
Danielleeee Offline
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Registered: 07/28/03
Loc: hmmmm nahhhh find me
Hi Ce Ce it was nice chatting tonite.. hugs

keep on the straight and narrow path to you..
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#93560 - 12/16/04 11:51 PM Re: First time out
Sarah Offline


Registered: 01/01/03
Loc: Seattle, WA
Cece, I love your new avatar...you look soooo sweet
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#93561 - 12/17/04 12:02 AM Re: First time out
Lua Offline
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Registered: 11/11/03
Loc: Australia
Well done!
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#93562 - 12/17/04 01:53 AM Re: First time out
Karina Offline
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Registered: 04/20/04
Loc: UK
Great, Cecelia!!!!!!! and I love your new looks!


Karina
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#93563 - 12/17/04 04:40 AM Re: First time out
Diana_Lynn Offline


Registered: 12/08/03
Loc: Upstate NY


I'm so happy for you Cece!! You're looking good hon! Each journey starts with those first steps! Congrats on taking your's!



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#93564 - 12/17/04 04:41 AM Re: First time out
LilBlackDress Offline


Registered: 02/15/04
Congratulations, CeCe. That first trip out as a woman is scary but, believe me, the more you do it, the easier it gets. Pretty soon, you'll feel uncomfortable going out in male mode. That's really true ! LOL

Good luck and God Bless. I like your new photo, too.

Love,

Lexi
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#93565 - 12/17/04 06:09 AM Re: First time out
Sachi Offline
Ultimate Goddess

Registered: 02/14/03
Congrats, Cecelia! It gets better, too!
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#93566 - 12/17/04 09:33 AM Re: First time out
mitsuko Offline
Frequent Flyer

Registered: 06/12/04
Hi Cecelia!

Congrats on first time out!
Getting lost in a new town kind of sucks,
but it sounds like you made it through that ordeal admirably!

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#93567 - 12/17/04 10:43 AM Re: First time out
Eden Offline
Frequent Flyer

Registered: 03/08/04
Loc: Mile High City
I'll add my support here as well.... even though it's still hard for me sometimes it continues to help me grow in each new situation. Well, done
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#93568 - 12/17/04 05:38 PM Re: First time out
Tara12 Offline
Member

Registered: 01/30/04
Cece,
Congratulations on your first outing!!! It is weird though, you will go through a time period of not wanting to, and feeling funny when you go out as a guy!!!


Hugs and Kisses,
Tara

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#93569 - 12/17/04 06:41 PM Re: First time out
Cecelia Offline
Pooh-Bah

Registered: 06/06/04
Loc: California, USA
Wow! 2 pages of responses. Thank you all. Hugs! It took some effort to get some nerve up, but once I was at it, I just felt, so, so normal (with a tiny bit of fear).
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#93570 - 12/17/04 09:12 PM Re: First time out
Karen_L Offline


Registered: 12/09/03
Loc: Qld, Australia
Anyway Cecelia. Congratulations
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#93571 - 12/18/04 08:30 AM Re: First time out
Sarah Offline


Registered: 01/01/03
Loc: Seattle, WA
I am sure it felt incredible...You are gonna love the rest of your life...each next step only gets better and better.

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#93572 - 12/18/04 08:52 AM Re: First time out
Shasta Offline
Ultimate Goddess

Registered: 07/20/04
Loc: Australia
Congrats darlin....as all the grrls have said...the worst is over and it will get easier and better...just remember, confidence is the main ingredient....as cmndr ivanova has said, if you dont feel confident yet, fake it and it will come(she said it much more eloquently than that though...i am a hick from Australia...crikey, must go wrestle a croc!!)

hehe

xx
charlotte

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#93573 - 12/29/04 10:55 AM Re: First time out
kailyn Offline
Enthusiast

Registered: 04/16/03
Loc: Seattle, WA
Quote:

Wow! 2 pages of responses. Thank you all. Hugs! It took some effort to get some nerve up, but once I was at it, I just felt, so, so normal (with a tiny bit of fear).



Awesome, CeCe. Sounds like you're doing well. The first time I went out I was absolutely mortified. And the only place I could think of to go where I wouldn't run into anyone was a gay bar for aging alcoholics! And of course the guy who makes me coffee is there! Your "Anyways" is my "And"!

I definitely got some looks, but maybe being 6'2" had something to do with it. Not sure. Congratulations! Calpernia is right, they do simply start to blend in with each other.

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#93574 - 12/31/04 11:52 AM Re: First time out
Dust Offline
penniless wretch

Registered: 11/27/03
Loc: gutter
Congrats, Cece! It's a good stepping stone, going out and about in the world, en femme, during day light hours. My first forays out into the world were on the Chicago Drag Circuit (tm), which had it's good points and bad points. Going out in daylight is far more difficult, though.

With time, you'll probably come to appreciate winter and colder climats a bit more, as you can layer clothes, and go out en femme without showing quite as much skin.

Anyhow, glad to hear that things are doing well, hon!
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#93575 - 12/31/04 11:56 AM Re: First time out
Removed Offline


Registered: 12/14/03
congrats!!!

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#93576 - 12/31/04 12:11 PM Re: First time out
sarahj Offline


Registered: 12/11/03
Zang!

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#93577 - 12/31/04 12:20 PM Re: First time out
RedANT Offline
Enthusiast

Registered: 02/04/04
Loc: Paradise Lost
CONGRATULATIONS Cecelia!

I wish I had known you would be in the Orlando area, I'd have loved to get together or something. Maybe next time...

Best wishes,

Ang
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#93578 - 12/31/04 12:22 PM Re: First time out
Kendra_Moore Offline


Registered: 11/30/03
Loc: Mesa AZ
Keep it up Cecelia, trust me; it will keep getting better and better! Even if you get read in some isolated incident in the future, don't let it bother you. They're stupid-asses who obviously need glasses(consider them).
Good luck with your journey!


Kendra
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#339761 - 09/22/11 05:41 AM Re: First time out [Re: Cecelia]
Cecelia Offline
Pooh-Bah

Registered: 06/06/04
Loc: California, USA
Originally Posted By: Cecelia
[…]Anyway, I get there, we meet for a couple of hours. She has to go home, and I stay at the hotel. What happened next really took the fun out of it. We both got sick. She, really bad. I just felt kinda icky, and didn't feel like eating.[…]


You know, I don't think I ever told anyone here what happened, but I was actually suffering from withdrawal symptoms because I'd forgotten my medication.

(Don't mind me, just reliving my old time here.)
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